So, singer/songwriter guy and I have been hanging for about a month and he's proven to be super cool...until the other day when there was a hiccup that almost destroyed it all. But first, let me give you the background. Singer/songwriter guy and I met 4 weeks ago thru our mutual friends breezy and CBabe. CBabe and singer/songwriter dude sing together at local shows and that's how my girl breezy met them...because at a show a month or two ago, CBabe saw breezy in the audience and they had a connection while he was on stage...and after the show,they met and have been hanging ever since.fastforward to July 20th, when I went with breezy to hear her singer boo sing in Lithonia at a restaurant. After the show, he introduced me to his "brother"/homeboy singer/songwriter dude. He was cool, but it was just a regular "nice to meet you" type thing. Then we all hung out until the wee hours of the morning...and I warmed up to the dude...and we all stayed the weekend at breezy's house. It was a great, relaxing weekend. Dude was nice, but it was just a casual hang out so no biggie. We kept in touch after that and I think feelings started to grow. Breezy and I drove to Alabama to hang with the, for a weekend and they stayed with us in ATL a few times when they came to sing. This bring brings us to this past weekend. It was breezy's bday bash weekend, and we hired the boys to sing. They perform, and dude was adorable and shouted me out on the mic, which was super sweet because by this past weekend, I'm really digging the boy. After that, I go into "party planner mode" for my girl and ensure everything that needs to be done gets done. Meanwhile, dude shouts out some tall chick in a blue dress and makes her smile. All good and dandy because that's part of his show. Then, later, everytime I see him, he's talking to this SAME CHICK. It's all good, because he's not my man, but I peep it nonetheless. Mind you, he would find ,e every so often to hug me and show some affection...then go right back to her. When it was time to leave, me and dude left. Next day, I tease him about his "blue dress boo" and he laughs it off like it was ridiculous. I teasd just to let him know I knew, and I left it all that. All fun and ish. Then, we go to brunch with 12 others from the bday bash, including breezy and all her peeps. Lo and behold, blue dress girl is at the brunch and Sita right beside dude. I didn't even recognize her without the dress until halfway thru brunch, then I went in on dude teasing him about bringing his blue dress boo to brunch. He laughed it off again, and I left it alone. Dude leaves to go back home to Alabama, and I head to breezy's for a pool party. Guess who's there? Blue dress boo. Them I hear breezy's roommate say to me, singer/songwriter dude ain't shit because he was trying to holler and go home with blue dress boo last night. WTF...did I hear her right? Then another 2 girls confirm saying yes, he got her number and texted her at 3am the night before AND at the table during brunch when he was sitting right next to me and she was on the other side of him. My fucking jaw dropped. I'm pissed. It was all jokes before, but to hear that he was on some shady shit trying to talk to this girl while he's hanging with me all weekend was too much. I was done. I tell breezy and she's baffled. The girls all tell her what they told me. We're hot as hell at dude...and after fuming, I'm just over it. When he texted me that evening saying "I miss you", I responded hours later saying "naw. It's all good. We still cool tho." and he was confused. I just couldnt deal with the trickery. When I went home, Breezy called him and told him the deal. Then he texted me asking me to call him to explain how it wasn't like that. We talked late that night...and he said all the right things...but truth be told, my feelings were hurt because I felt tricked and disrespected. After the convo, he asked of we could talk the next day and I said ok. Next day, I had lunch with breezy and talked thru it. She said her roomy and the girls are messy and started one bogus shit without verifying. I could agree wi that, but at the end of the day, him getting that girls number and texting her that night AND at brunch while sitting next to me is still questionable. Even if it was platonic, it's a little shady. So now, while I wish we could go back to how we were, things are just different. I don't even know how to get back there if I wanted to. Besides, he's moving to LA soon and he always talks about how he couldn't live in ATL because there are too many women and he wouldn't be focused. To me, that says that he's still searching for women and I need to keep my distance. Sad, but true. And this is why I hate dating of any kind. You always get to the stage where you realize it's not what you thought or hoped for and it's time to throw thee guard up again. Sigh. Dan well.